Five Lessons I Learned From The Plan Her Conference
One of the most powerful things in the world you can do is share your story. You can spark a fire into someone and that's exactly what the Plan Her Conference 2018 accomplished. Sunday July 29, 2018 Pink Productions held its Plan Her Conference 2018, where they goal was simple, to motivate and encourage other women through the art of story telling. The conference consisted of two panels, moderated by The MediaEYEcon, Ja’Leah D. The panel included women of color who have done something positive despite all of the odds stacked against them. Before the conference guest experienced sounds from DJ 4.0 while they shopped with the vendors. This conference definitely gave me a #blackgirlmagic vibe. I am the type of person who does not get motivated easily. Most of the things I do, I do them because they have to get done. Recently, I had come to a point in my life where I was ready to quit my part-time radio job because I wasn't sure what the future held for me media. I have been working part-time for the past two years. Now while some may have the mindset, “that is apart of the process” my mindset is “Im expensive and I love money.” I actually planned to quit my job and become a secretary until I figured out exactly what I wanted to do. I do feel that you can chase a dream and work a 9-5. This week I landed a full-time job in my field. YAY me! The main thing I took from this conference was to not give up. Keep going because in the end it will be worth it. So, for anyone that missed the conference here are a few gems that I think will be helpful.
Have an Intimate Relationship With God: God is our friend and he wants us to talk to him. How often do you speak with your boyfriend or home girls during the day? I will assume more than once. The same type of commutation you expect to receive in your relationships is the same open line of commutation God wants us to have with him.
When God Wants You To Do Something, He Will Force You: Being a Nigerian Black woman in a white male dominated field can be challenging. While navigating her way through Engineering, Crystal Ngumezi moved from Forth Worth to Austin TX. Although she knew she wanted to help girls who looked like her, she didn't plan on doing it so early in life but God intervened. In 2016 Crystal started her non-profit organization. Her organization provides female mentorship to underprivileged young women, they offer professional training skills to help them succeed in the real world, and they also offer STEM training.
Depression Is Real: African American women experience higher rates then their white and male counterparts but are at the bottom of the list when it comes down to receiving treatment. One common theme of the conference was depression. Most or all of the panelist shared their stories about how they dealt with depression. Instagram makes the life of an entrepreneur looks so glamorous but we truly don't know the story behind the picture. Crystal spoke about how she really wasn't aware of what depression was and how she had to educate herself on the subject after she suffered from a panic attack while she was at work. In order to get better Crystal had to remove herself from her toxic work environment and submit to God’s will. If you think you may be suffering from depression please reach out to someone for help. Depression really is a silent killer.
It’s Okay To Let Love In Again: It is okay to love again after you have been hurt. However, you should make sure that you are healed from your past trauma so you don't carry baggage into the next relationship. Sychoya, another panelist advice is, “When God tells you something you know.” She shared a story about how she met her husband she knew that he was going to be her husband. A marriage isn’t driven by love; it’s driven by purpose. Saycoya says she and her husband share the same sprit.
Stay True To Yourself: One lesson that I have learned over the years is that a major key in life is staying true to yourself. Yes we are in the social media age and it seems like there are carbon copies everywhere. However it is okay to be different. In the words of Krasha Williams, “You don't have to be like anyone else because being you is the secret sauce.”